GRATITUDE

Aloneness

There are two persons: one, a young man, a poet, a philosopher and a woman who is in need of relationship. She is continually harassing him about marriage. And particularly in India, if one woman and a man are even seen walking together, that is enough for a scandal. They might not be doing anything, but just walking together and it is enough for a scandal; the whole town will be agog, and so many stories will start springing up from nowhere. And of course the woman suffers more because everywhere people start pointing at her.

So she was desperate. She was saying, "Why do you go on postponing? You love me, you want to be with me. If you don't love me, I will not force you.

"And the man says, "I love you, that's why I am not going to marry you." Now, this is very difficult for the woman. If she had been from my commune she would have understood. But what kind of statement is this? -- "Because I love you I cannot marry you." But she goes on and on, so he says, "I will marry you on one condition.

"They are sitting on the bank of a lake. He says, "I will make my house on this side of the lake and you make your house on the other side of the lake. Once in a while, walking, perhaps we may meet. Once in a while, perhaps I may knock on your door or you may knock on my door. Once in a while, perhaps I am in a boat and you are also in a boat, and we meet on the lake. But it always has to be without any prearrangement. It has not to be a dating. I will never inform you that I am coming, you will never inform me that you are coming. I will marry you on this condition only. For a few days we may not be able to see each other. You will never ask me, 'Where have you been?' We will never interfere in each other's freedom. We will remain as strangers, as we are now.

"The woman said, "Then what is the purpose of marriage?" Naturally she cannot understand what is the purpose of the marriage.

The purpose of marriage is to be on each other's head twenty-four hours a day. The purpose of marriage is to destroy each other in the name of love; to nag, harass, fight. The man is suggesting exactly the right thing: "It will be a great joy suddenly seeing you on the lake... I will not be expecting it. Unexpectedly, I will find you in the jungle by the side of the lake...." Just to think of that unexpected moment is relating. There is no relationship.He cannot send a message, "You have to come tonight because you are my wife, otherwise I am going to court." In fact the husband cannot say to the wife, "You sleep in the other room." That is enough to create trouble. The wife cannot say to the husband, "You cannot sleep in my bed." That is enough for trouble, because we have completely forgotten a simple thing, our aloneness. And we are trying to forget it as much as possible -- the very idea should be dropped.

But aloneness is a natural phenomenon. And there is nothing painful about it.When you know it, it is the greatest bliss.

OSHO

From Ignorance to Innocence, # 3

Conditioning - Learning perspective

Our mind is accustomed, almost to the logical reasoning/the mathematical logic, the mind is conditioned to the extreme of logical reasoning by our schools, colleges and universities, and our whole education system is designed in this way only, so the mind, almost lost the other side of reasoning, which is nothing but the existential logic, which is very important for our practical day to day life.

For eg.
a) There are three doors, out of these three doors; two doors are open, than the mind immediately assume or consider that, the third door is closed. But in reality it needs not to be so.

b) When one sees the bird outside through the keyhole, so one vision is limited to the particular limited (Narrow) area or so. when one see the bird flying within one’s limited visionary area outside …when it flew away from this limited area, the mind think that the bird is no more (or) the mind perceives, as if, the bird is not existed in the whole of existence, since one’s vision is condition to certain limit, his logic doesn’t allow to think beyond.

c) Two men behind the prison bars are seeing out side world of the prision, the one will see the earth near by, the other one see the star in the sky which is far away.

Break all your conditioning which becomes a hindrance/Barriers in your Learning .

MICROCOSM & MACROCOSM

"ONE WHO KNOWS THE INNERSELF

KNOWS THE EXTERNAL WORLD AS WELL."

"ONE WHO KNOWS THE EXTERNAL WORLD

KNOWS THE INNERSELF AS WELL."

(Source:-Acaranga sutra 1.147)

Timing Sense in Your Speech

Timing is the actual time taken for the spoken words

It can be better understood by the example of a radio speech. Radio talks are usually short and sweet. The talk is prepared which is based on counting words per minute. Say 100 to 200 words per minute. So, timings for a speech is constructing the information of a speech correctly.

A good orator or a professional speaker needs good timing. Few speakers talk according to their schedule. The better way to acquire it is through diligence say rehearsal.

Timing is discipline

A speaker should know where to speed up and speed down. A news reader in a radio station or television centre is time conscious. They will be knowing how to balance each sentence to its overall value to the item. School teachers and college lecturers should all posses effective precise timing.

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PERSISTENCE

" ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT QUALITIES EVERY ONE NEED TO ADAPT,ESPECIALLY WHEN WE ENCOUNTER FAILURES IN OUR LIFE."