Thursday, December 31, 2009

My Dear Friends,and Readers,

My Dear Friends,and Readers,
i heartfully wish you a peaceful and prosperous 'NEW YEAR'

Also wish you....
What ever dream and wish you may have..
Let it come true in this new year - '2010'

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

THOUGHTS WATCHING..


Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

Friday, December 18, 2009

SELF-CENTERING

' Do anything what ever you may wish.
DO IT with full devotion/involvement.'
This will make you to EXCELL anything as desire to become in life.

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE


In the book Emotion, Disclosure, and Health edited by James W. Pennebaker, a chapter on emotional intelligence research yields some valuable insights–and ways of assessing emotional intelligence. The chapter, written by Peter Salovey and colleagues, describes the Trait Meta-Mood Scale and its development as a research tool.

The authors report that emotional intelligence is composed of several interrelated capacities:
1) Attention
The degree to which people pay attention to their feelings and value them as sources of information;
2) Clarity
The degree to which people accurately identify and understand their feelings;
3) Mood Repair
The degree to which people can control and shift their emotional experience.

In their research, they found that subjects exposed to a stressful event were more likely to maintain a positive mood when they not only attended to their feelings, but had a high degree of clarity about those feelings. When these individuals attended to their feelings but had little clarity about those feelings, they were more likely to ruminate about the stressful event. Clarity about feelings enabled them to move beyond stress and return to a positive emotional state.

Moreover, those with the ability to repair mood tended to experience negative mood less intensely than those without the capacity for repair. The ability to shift mood states appears to have value as a coping mechanism.

This research suggests that it is not enough to pay attention to feelings. Understanding those emotions is important to moving beyond them. Ironically, attempts to dampen and minimize emotions in trading is apt to lead to less clarity, and thus less ability to move beyond the stresses of the moment. It’s the ability to think about one’s experience–and not get lost within it–that enables people to transcend stressful situations.

Monday, November 30, 2009

How to Want Very Little


Editor’s note: This is a guest post from David Turnbull of Adventures of a Barefoot Geek.



There are two challenges that people face when choosing to live a more simpler life:


owning little and wanting little. Yet people fuse these challenges together into a larger “live simply” goal. Unfortunately, they’re two different beasts that need to be tamed in their own ways.



Owning little requires a practical approach – systematically decluttering your life and eliminating the unnecessary. Wanting little on the other hand is focused on the way in which we think, a far more blurred aspect of simplicity.



Sincerely wanting little is difficult. It goes against our firmly rooted desire for certainty, for ownership. To cut through this psychological attachment requires more than step-by-step processes or following a list of tactics, it requires a shift in your thinking, a shift in the way you approach your day to day life and how you make decisions.



1. Have a vision for your life.


Goals are somewhat useful tools to get from point A to B, but they often lack depth, emotion and meaning, and without those three things there’s a deficiency of purpose and drive.
Think about the lifestyle you want as a whole instead of simply focusing on your desire to want very little. What do you want to own? How will you spend your time? Where will you be? Be specific.

This outline acts as a funnel. Desires for more may attempt to flood your life, but because you’ve clearly defined what matters to you, only the things conducive to your aims will make their way through this funnel. It becomes much easier to say “No” to something when you’re certain it’s not apart of the bigger picture.



2. Find your motivation.


What is your why? Why do you want little? Because it’s trendy is unfortunately not enough to quench your lust for stuff. Personally, I want little because I have dreams of traveling the world for months on end, and stocking up on gadgets and gizmos doesn’t exactly gel well with that.



  • Here are some other common reason why’s:

  • Saving money – for retirement, travel, charity etc.

  • Eliminating stress.

  • Freeing up time from the offset of being able to work less, clean less, and maintain less.
    Don’t be meaninglessly minimalist. Be purposeful and deliberate in your quest to want little.


3. Experience the benefits.



No matter how many times you hear the benefits of wanting little, or visualise your motivation with all the intensity in the world, experiencing an uncluttered lifestyle will always be the best way to switch from a “want more” to a “want little” mindset.



Aside from simply throwing out everything you own, there are a few ways to go about this:




  • Plan a short vacation where you take as little as possible, including no technology or fashion accessories. Only pack the essentials.

  • Pick one room in your house or apartment that you want to transform into a no-stuff zone. Dump as much as you can from that room into a spare room or garage. Notice the difference in tranquility as you walk between your regular rooms and the no-stuff zone.

  • Visit locations that are inherently uncluttered. Buddhist temples spring to mind as being places with the bare minimal.



4. Be noncommittal.



Decisions become scary when they’re set in stone. In other areas of life a little fear could indeed be a good thing, but it’s unnecessary and undesirable when striving to eliminate the desire for more – the challenge is difficult enough without adding further resistance.




There’s no line to cross with attachment to stuff, no mountain you must overcome. It’s a lifestyle you can back out of anytime, a mindset that in no way restricts your ability to choose. Wade through the shallows before diving in the deep end.




5. Understand the psychology of influence.



Marketing and sales are apart of this world and it’d be silly to chastise those sectors because in reality we’re all marketers and salespeople – all livelihoods are fuelled by being heard and mutual exchanges. But that doesn’t mean you need to fall into the trap of cheap psychological tricks.



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Start by reading about how marketing weasels will try to manipulate you and for more depth pick up a copy of Robert Cialdini’s classic, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion.
Other books on the topic that I’m yet to read, but you may want to check out include:
Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking, Malcolm Gladwell
Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions, Dan Ariely
Buyology: Truth and Lies About Why We Buy, Martin Lindstrom



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6. Grow into it.



Start with small victories. Be mindful of all your purchases and desires and regularly ask yourself “Does this fit into my vision?” You will stumble, it’s the nature of the beast. The world wants you to want more, and the world is a mighty challenger.




Be persistent with your quest for less and surround yourself with positive influences – classical works of literature like the Tao Teh Ching and Walden; Or, Life in the Woods, plus like-minded individuals who want to cut themselves free from the leash of things.




7. Lose yourself.



Purchasing is a process we lose ourselves in. First something catches our eye, then there’s the inner conflict (should we buy it?). If we convince ourselves that we should part with our money, there’s that little buzz you get of claiming ownership. You take the product home. And then you use it.




It’s an exciting sequence of events – full of uncertainty and possibility – that we get swept up in. But the problem is, it mostly ends with buyer’s remorse, a dented bank account and all the other costs of owning stuff.




What you need to do is learn to get lost in activities rather than acquisition. Instead of being strung along by the latest gizmo, learn to transplant that process into an outlet such as writing, music or drawing. Focus on doing interesting things rather than buying interesting things.




8. Crunch the numbers.



It’s likely that you have a passion that has expenses (like travel or reading) or, at the very least, you would like to put away some money for a rainy day. One simple trick I use to avoid acquiring things is compare the cost of the particular thing in question, to the expenses of my passion.




For example, backpacking through Thailand is something I dream of doing. Now, say it costs $25 per day to live in Phuket. If I were to see an Xbox game selling for $50 I’d ask myself “Is that game worth sacrificing two days in a foreign culture?” Most of the time the answer will be a resounding “No” and it’s in those instances where you’ll be dodging a purposeless impulse buy.
If the answer comes back “Yes,” nothing is wrong with that. Wanting little isn’t about depriving yourself of what’s important to you, but eliminating all the clutter that makes its way into our lives. But make sure you’re being honest with yourself.




SOURCE:http://zenhabits.net/

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

WINNING ATTITUDE


"To become a Successful Beings in Life one need to have a Unique Attitude.
Succsss begins with believing in Yourself and having a Winning Attitude."


Everyone wants to be a winner, at least they think so. Unfortunately, most are not willing to perform the tasks necessary to become a consistent winner.

Winners generally achieve success by being focused on a goal. Being focused allows winners to remain committed to the tasks at hand. Most winners perform a lot of hard work, including a willingness to deal with sometimes mundane duties. Most of all, winners perform with a
“I am responsible for both my failures and successes” attitude.

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

ZEN TEACHINGS


There is a Zen story about a poor man walking through the woods reflecting upon his many troubles.

He stopped to rest against a tree, a magical tree that would instantly grant the wishes of anyone who came in contact with it. He realized he was thirsty and wished for a drink. Instantly a cup of cool water was in his hand. Shocked, he looked at the water, he decided it was safe and drank it.
He then realized he was hungry and wished he had something to eat. A meal appeared before him. “My wishes are being granted,” he thought in disbelief.

“Well, then I wish for a beautiful home of my own,” he said out loud. The home appeared in the meadow before him. A huge smile crossed his face as he wished for servants to take care of the house. When they appeared he realized he had somehow been blessed with an incredible power and he wished for a beautiful, loving, intelligent woman to share his good fortune. “Wait a minute, this is ridiculous,” said the man to the woman. “I’m not this lucky. This can’t happen to me.” As he spoke…everything disappeared. He shook his head and said, “I knew it,” then walked away thinking about his many troubles.


There is a great truth hidden behind this simple Zen story.

Our mind is like this magical tree. “Whatever the mind conceives and believes, it achieves.”

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

DREAM


"Dream is not what you see in your sleep,
Dream is the thing that does not allow you to sleep"

Dr A. P. J. Abdul Kalam

Exercise and Its Influence on the Human Brain


We all know that exercising regularly is beneficial to our mental and physical health. But did you know that your workout actually makes you smarter?
What new research has demonstrated is that your brain stays in better shape when you work out. Doing exercise improves the circulation throughout the body, including the brain, and in many ways optimizes your mind to learn. When you think about that the human brain uses 20% of the body’s energy consumption (at rest!) to perform its normal functions, you might get some perspectives of how important adequate oxygen and glucose supply to the brain actually presents.
Other benefits of keeping your body (and mind) in shape include; increased metabolism, a reduction in stress-levels, as well as an improved mood and attention span – all factors which help the brain in performing better.
Over the past decade several studies have emphasized the link between physical activity and cognition. A study, by psychiatrist Marcus Richards of the University College London and his colleagues, indicated “that engagement in physical exercise and other leisure-time activities at [the age of] 36 was associated with higher memory scores at [the age of] 43” (from the July 2009 Scientific American Mind).http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=fit-body-fit-mind&page=3
The same analysis also pointed out that doing physical activity at the age of 36 correlated with a slower rate of memory decline from the age 43 to 53 years of age. Contrasting, however, for those who stopped exercising after the age of 36 the study indicated little memory protection, but “protection for those individuals who began to exercise after this time”.
Another study (reproduced in the July 2009 Scientific American Mind; see link above), by then graduate student Suvi Rovio of the Karolinska Institute in Sweden and her colleagues, found that conducting moderate activity “at midlife at least twice a week was associated with a reduced risk of dementia in later life”.
Physical exercise emerge (in correlation with balanced nutrition, sleep, stress management, and novel learning experiences) to be the key to your brain increasing its mind power. Additional things you do, like taking part in activities which make you utilize your brain, working out on a regular basis, staying engaged with other people, and even maintaining a positive attitude, have a significant effect on how effective your cognitive functioning will be in mature age.
Thanks to:-Linn Lislegard

GRATITUDE


Sunday, August 2, 2009

Aloneness


There are two persons: one, a young man, a poet, a philosopher and a woman who is in need of relationship. She is continually harassing him about marriage. And particularly in India, if one woman and a man are even seen walking together, that is enough for a scandal. They might not be doing anything, but just walking together and it is enough for a scandal; the whole town will be agog, and so many stories will start springing up from nowhere. And of course the woman suffers more because everywhere people start pointing at her.

So she was desperate. She was saying, "Why do you go on postponing? You love me, you want to be with me. If you don't love me, I will not force you.

"And the man says, "I love you, that's why I am not going to marry you." Now, this is very difficult for the woman. If she had been from my commune she would have understood. But what kind of statement is this? -- "Because I love you I cannot marry you." But she goes on and on, so he says, "I will marry you on one condition.

"They are sitting on the bank of a lake. He says, "I will make my house on this side of the lake and you make your house on the other side of the lake. Once in a while, walking, perhaps we may meet. Once in a while, perhaps I may knock on your door or you may knock on my door. Once in a while, perhaps I am in a boat and you are also in a boat, and we meet on the lake. But it always has to be without any prearrangement. It has not to be a dating. I will never inform you that I am coming, you will never inform me that you are coming. I will marry you on this condition only. For a few days we may not be able to see each other. You will never ask me, 'Where have you been?' We will never interfere in each other's freedom. We will remain as strangers, as we are now.

"The woman said, "Then what is the purpose of marriage?" Naturally she cannot understand what is the purpose of the marriage.

The purpose of marriage is to be on each other's head twenty-four hours a day. The purpose of marriage is to destroy each other in the name of love; to nag, harass, fight. The man is suggesting exactly the right thing: "It will be a great joy suddenly seeing you on the lake... I will not be expecting it. Unexpectedly, I will find you in the jungle by the side of the lake...." Just to think of that unexpected moment is relating. There is no relationship.He cannot send a message, "You have to come tonight because you are my wife, otherwise I am going to court." In fact the husband cannot say to the wife, "You sleep in the other room." That is enough to create trouble. The wife cannot say to the husband, "You cannot sleep in my bed." That is enough for trouble, because we have completely forgotten a simple thing, our aloneness. And we are trying to forget it as much as possible -- the very idea should be dropped.

But aloneness is a natural phenomenon. And there is nothing painful about it.When you know it, it is the greatest bliss.

OSHO
From Ignorance to Innocence, # 3

Saturday, August 1, 2009

Conditioning - Learning perspective


Our mind is accustomed, almost to the logical reasoning/the mathematical logic, the mind is conditioned to the extreme of logical reasoning by our schools, colleges and universities, and our whole education system is designed in this way only, so the mind, almost lost the other side of reasoning, which is nothing but the existential logic, which is very important for our practical day to day life.

For eg.
a) There are three doors, out of these three doors; two doors are open, than the mind immediately assume or consider that, the third door is closed. But in reality it needs not to be so.

b) When one sees the bird outside through the keyhole, so one vision is limited to the particular limited (Narrow) area or so. when one see the bird flying within one’s limited visionary area outside …when it flew away from this limited area, the mind think that the bird is no more (or) the mind perceives, as if, the bird is not existed in the whole of existence, since one’s vision is condition to certain limit, his logic doesn’t allow to think beyond.

c) Two men behind the prison bars are seeing out side world of the prision, the one will see the earth near by, the other one see the star in the sky which is far away.

Break all your conditioning which becomes a hindrance/Barriers in your Learning .

Saturday, July 25, 2009

MICROCOSM & MACROCOSM


"ONE WHO KNOWS THE INNERSELF
KNOWS THE EXTERNAL WORLD AS WELL."

"ONE WHO KNOWS THE EXTERNAL WORLD
KNOWS THE INNERSELF AS WELL."


(Source:-Acaranga sutra 1.147)

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Timing Sense in Your Speech


Timing is the actual time taken for the spoken words
It can be better understood by the example of a radio speech. Radio talks are usually short and sweet. The talk is prepared which is based on counting words per minute. Say 100 to 200 words per minute. So, timings for a speech is constructing the information of a speech correctly.
A good orator or a professional speaker needs good timing. Few speakers talk according to their schedule. The better way to acquire it is through diligence say rehearsal.
Timing is discipline
A speaker should know where to speed up and speed down. A news reader in a radio station or television centre is time conscious. They will be knowing how to balance each sentence to its overall value to the item. School teachers and college lecturers should all posses effective precise timing.
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Tuesday, June 30, 2009

PERSISTENCE

" ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT QUALITIES EVERY ONE NEED TO ADAPT,ESPECIALLY WHEN WE ENCOUNTER FAILURES IN OUR LIFE."


Saturday, June 27, 2009

RELAXATION TECHNIQUES FOR YOU

*8 Relaxation Exercises to Release Tension

What happens when we are under tension?
When we are under physical threat the body naturally tenses up certain muscles in order to protect itself. It basically hunches and curls up into a ball to protect vulnerable areas and expose the better-protected ones.

These are the muscles that tense up under stress:

- We tend to frown
- We tend to clench our jaws
- Our shoulders tend to hunch up
- Our chest tends to close
- Our arms tend to come into our sides
- Our hands tend to bunch into fists
- Our legs tend to close
- Our knees tend to be drawn up
- Our feet tend to be drawn up, so our feet are pointing upwards
So how do we relax these muscles?
In order to relax the muscles that tense up under stress we need to move the affected joints in the opposite direction to the natural danger response.
comei plak kucing nih tido...

Here are some relaxation exercises to release tension:

1. Try to move your forehead or hairline backwards over the top of your head - the opposite of a frown. It may help to imagine your hand stroking backwards from your forehead over the top of your head and down to the back of your neck - but don't actually do the stoking.
2. Open your mouth as wide as you can, hold and release
3. Push your shoulders down and back, hold and release
4. Stretch your arms up and link your hands above you head.
5. Open your hands as wide as you possibly can, hold and release.
6. Lie on your back and roll your knees outwards. No need for a big movement on this one - a few millimeters is all that's needed to relax your inner thigh muscles.
7. Straighten your knees so that your hip is opened out and stretched.
8. Point your toes downwards as far as you can. Hold and release.

The ideal way to start learning these exercises is to lie flat on your back. Once you have got the hang of it you can do them at any time: sitting at your desk, waiting in a queue, waiting at a stoplight. Wherever you have a few moments to wait.
source from: http://ezinearticles.com/

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking


"The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful."
- Dalai Lama


Life could be so much better for many people, if they would just spot their negative thinking habits and replace them with positive ones.Negative thinking, in all its many-splendored forms, has a way of creeping into conversations and our thinking without our noticing them. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these thoughts and squash them like little bugs. Then replace them with positive ones. You'll notice a huge difference in everything you do.Let's take a look at 10 common ways that negative thinking emerges get good at spotting these patterns, and practice replacing them with positive thinking patterns. It has made all the difference in the world for me.

10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking
1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).
Problem: If you think you can't be happy until you reach a certain point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of house or car or computer setup, you'll never be happy. That elusive goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are not satisfied we want more.Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesn't have to be some state that we want to get to eventually it can be found right now. Learn to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This might sound simplistic, but it works.
2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).
Problem: We'll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted, as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at yourself what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in every one of us.
3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.
Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful in different ways.Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it, and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at yourself you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do. And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you in the social ladder, but those below you there are always millions of people worse off than you, people who couldn't even read this article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.
4. I am a miserable failure I can't seem to do anything right.
Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways. Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly failed so many times I cannot count them and I continue to fail, daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a negative self-image and never move on from here.Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you've accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It's an incredibly positive feeling.
5. I'm going to beat so-and-so no matter what I'm better than him. And there's no way I'll help him succeed he might beat me.
Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However, who is to say that my subscribers can't also be yours? People can read and subscribe to more than one blog. Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal. There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in terms of abundance rather than scarcity.
6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?
Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they will frustrate us and bring us down.Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life. Suffering is a part of the human condition but it passes. All pain goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don't let it hold you back. Don't dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get stronger, in disguise.
7. You can't do anything right! Why can't you be like ____ ?
Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things, different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics. If we were all the same, we'd be robots. Second, saying negative things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last, and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their differences.
8. Your work sucks. It's super lame. You are a moron and I hope you never reproduce.
Problem: I've actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful. However, let's look at it not from the perspective of the person receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth, making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It's also not a good way to make friends.Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself. And you can make some great friends this way. That's a good thing.
9. Insulting People Back
Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in violence or other negative consequences for both of you.Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you like Teflon. Don't let their problem become yours. In fact, try to understand their problem more why would someone say something like that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner towards them and make you feel better about yourself in the process.
10. I don't think I can do this I don't have enough discipline. Maybe some other time.
Problem: If you don't think you can do something, you probably won't. Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put stuff off for “some other time”, you'll never get it done. Negative thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You don't need discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time, putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with positive thinking.

Source:-ritemail

Sunday, June 14, 2009

ACCEPT YOUR PROBLEM


"ACCEPT YOUR PROBLEM AND WORRIES FIRST"
'ACCEPTANCE IS THE FIRST STEP TO RESOLVE EVERTHING.'
WHEN YOU ACCEPT ALL YOUR PROBLEM,YOU MAY SOON REALISE
A SOLUTION TO COME OUT FROM YOUR WORRIES,
AND IN THE COMING FUTURE YOU NEED NOT TO FACE THE SAME WORRIES.

Friday, May 29, 2009

EXCELLENCE


EXCELLENCE

“Excellence” is a drive from inside, not outside.
Excel at a task today
Not necessarily for some one else to notice but for your own satisfaction.

Thursday, May 28, 2009

OUR HABITS MATTERS


"The nature of man is always the same;
it is their habits that separate them."
-Confucius

Sunday, May 17, 2009

LOVE

LOVE AND TO BE LOVED (BELOVED)


You see your world inside their eyes,
They stand by you in good times and bad,
Falling in love is hard to do,

But once you do there’s no turning back,
For their soul lock deep into your heart
Love is powerful,Love is strong,
Love gives meaning to our lives,
And happiness throughout our souls,
You face begins to glow and your energy builds
more and more each day .

Don’t be afraid to love,Don’t say you don’t know how
The true secret to learn how to love someone is
to walk side by side with no walls around.

Let down your shield and let that person
become a part of you.

Then look into their eyes and if you see your world inside
their eyes then my friend you’ve discovered love.

OPTICAL ILLUSION

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

INDIVIDUALITY


" DO NOT JUST FALLOW OTHER FOOT STEPS...
INSTEAD, CREATE ON YOUR OWN...
AND SET A NEW TREND/PATH
FOR OTHERS TO FALLOW AND LEAD SUCCESS IN THEIR LIFE. "
Ramani

HELP OTHERS WHEN IT IS REALLY NEEDED

BUTTERFLY

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon.

The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.
Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

'Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives.
If God allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles,
it would cripple us. '

We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly!

Sunday, May 3, 2009

DECISION MAKING


Success Does Not Depend

On Making Important

Decisions Quick

But, It Depends On

Your Quick Action

On Important Decisions.

“BE THE BEST”

Friday, May 1, 2009

POWER OF TRUST IN ONE'S HIGHERSELF

Surrender with Belief to Divine
There was once a pandit who lived on the bank of a river. So learned was he that other pandits came from far and near to consult with him. They showered him with appreciation.

On the other side of the bank lived a milkmaid, called Lakshmi, who sold milk to the pandit. Hers was a busy day.She woke up early in the morning, bathed her cows, milked them, then cooked a meal for her old father and then set out to deliver the milk. She had to cross the river on a boat.
One day the pandit was waiting for her for a long time. When she finally arrived, the pandit said, Ah, Lakshmi you have come at last. I was waiting for you since early morning. From tomorrow I want the milk before sunrise.
The next morning Lakshmi rushed to the riverbank at the crack of dawn but the boatman did not show up until late morning. Hurry, hurry, Lakshmi urged the boatman, knowing that the pandit would be waiting for the milk.
The pandit complained, you are late again, what happened?
The pandit was in a bad mood that day. Don't give me excuses! He shouted.
How dare you disregard my wishes! Don't you know who I am?
Lakshmi began to cry.But the pandit continued to boast, Do you know how learned I am?
You are just a simple milkmaid. I know so many things.
That river is like the river of life. People safely cross the river of life by invoking the Divine name of Hari.
Lakshmi took the pandit's words very seriously and happily departed, saying to her, I wish panditji had told me this earlier.
The next day Lakshmi arrived at the pandit's house before sunrise. The Pandit was surprised to see her as he could not see the boatman.
How did you cross the river? He inquired.
Lakshmi smiled and said, "You taught me to cross the river by chanting the name of Hari and I did.
"That is impossible! The pandit shouted and ordered her to cross the river again.
Lakshmi crossed the river again without any difficulty, chanting the name of Hari as she did so.
She stayed completely dry.
The pandit tried to do the same, chanting the name of Hari.
But as he tried to protect his clothes from getting wet, he fell into the river.
Lakshmi was astonished. "Oh Panditji," she said, "You were not thinking of Hari at all.
You were busy thinking about your dhoti. That is why it did not work.
"Panditji marveled at Lakshmi's devotion and accepted that her faith was more powerful than his empty learning.
He sincerely blessed Lakshmi.
Moral
' Believe in God & surrender your mind, body & spirit to Him,
He will take care of all your problems'.

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

LEADERSHIP QUALITIES- TUNING IT UP



QUALITIES FOR A GREAT LEADER

1. A good head to be able to evaluate the quality of ideas and
Suggestions presented to him.

2. A good heart to be able to be compassionate and fair with the people.

3. A good spirit to be able to hear the voice of God. Some paths
God will lead you down don't make head and heart sense at theTime.

4. A good eye to be able to see things other people can not.

5. A good tongue to be able to communicate the vision to the
People and motivate them to follow.

6. A good hand to be able to do the things that need to be Done.
Knowing the right way is not the same as doing it.

7. A good foot to set an example for the people.


A minor flaw Can outshine a major mission in the eyes of small minds.

"JUST TUNE YOURSELF TO ACCOMPLISH GREAT LEADERSHIP
QUALITIES AND BECOME A LEADER"

Saturday, April 25, 2009

THOUGHTS

Life is thought, and when we cease to think, we are not living. How we think, is the kind of life we live. Since we are able to control our thoughts, we can determine the course of our life and the way we feel during our time here.

“We are what we think.” - Buddha (BC)

It is very important to establish good thinking guidelines and follow them. Placing thoughts of peace and happiness in our minds will help to make our lives peaceful and happy. If we do not set our thoughts properly, we travel through life by way of places where we will wish we had not gone.

“It is the mind that maketh good or ill, that maketh wretch or happy, rich or poor.” - Edmund Spenser (1552-1599)

Our daily life includes thoughts associated with responsibilities concerning work, other people, and handling problems. If possible, try not to think of too many different things during your day, and don’t move or think too quickly. Start your morning with a plan to come through to bedtime relaxed, contented, and ready for a restful night’s sleep.

“Your own mind is a sacred enclosure into which nothing harmful can enter except by your permission.” - Arnold Bennett (1867-1932)

Reflect about things that can improve your feelings - learning, completing tasks and duties, pleasant and relaxing experiences, kind words. Think about your happiness, goals, life and its pleasures, your principles and your conduct. Think about enjoying the moment.

“Garner up pleasant thoughts in your mind, for pleasant thoughts make pleasant lives.” - John Wilkins (1614-1672)

What are you thinking about?

Thursday, April 23, 2009

TIPS FOR AN EFFECTIVE PRESENTATION


A guide to oral presentations

Many students find that oral presentations are one of the most confronting forms of assessment at university. However, presentations are also one of the most fruitful sources of personal growth in your university education. For both your study and future work purposes, it is important to develop skills and confidence in giving oral presentations.

The following is a guide to improving your presentation.
The message is a simple:-
PREPARE! PREPARE! PREPARE!

1. Plan
2. Prepare
3. Practise
4. Present

Analyse your audience
o What do they know about the subject? What terminology would they know?
o What do they want or need to know? What is their motivation for listening to you?
o What aspects of your subject would they be interested in?
o How much information can they absorb? If they are new to the topic, their level of absorption may be lower than for an expert audience.

Determine primary purpose
o What is your main point? (Can you put it into one sentence?)
o What do you want your listeners to do or think? (Are you trying to inform/convince/guide/entertain them?)
Select effective supporting information
o What kind of information will best support your presentation?
o What kind of information will appeal to your listeners? Provide interesting examples.
o Listeners may only remember two or three supporting points.
The word “visuals” can be a noun, eg: “Can you prepare some visuals for my presentation?”
Prepare an outline
In general, follow a 3 part structure:
10. Introduction - tell them what you’re going to tell them.
11. Body - tell them!
12. Conclusion - tell them what you have told them!
Do not try to include too much content in for the time allowed.

Prioritise.
It is important to have time to repeat key points in different ways, and to provide an effective introduction and conclusion.
Select appropriate visual aids
(Overhead transparencies, slides, flip charts, chalkboards, handouts, 3D objects, computer projections…)
o Visuals must convey your point clearly and simply.
o Do not over-use visuals (a trap when using Powerpoint). The visuals are not the presentation, their purpose is simply to summarise or illustrate your main points.

Prepare an introduction
When your introduction is over, your audience should be interested, know what your main point is, and know how you’re going to explain it. Therefore, does your introduction…

15. arouse interest in the topic?
16. provide context, ie. background and definitions?
17. clearly state the main point of the talk?
18. describe the structure of the talk?

Prepare a conclusion
The audience listens for your summary and concluding remarks. Listeners rate a presentation on the quality of its ending, so prepare clear, succinct closing comments that catch the listener’s attention.

Delivery
o Practise your presentation aloud (it will not help if you just say it in your head).
o Don’t read it. Use cue cards with simple dot points on which you elaborate orally.
o Let the audience know what’s coming: let them know the structure of your talk, use linking words between sections and keep them up-to-date on where you are up to.
o Audience attention span is short, so break up long sections of information with questions, feedback, activities, and repeat important points.
o Do not rush. Speak more slowly and clearly than you normally would. Provide extra emphasis through intonation and body language.
o Be aware of body language: avoid annoying habits such as talking with your hands in your pockets, slouching, scratching, fiddling, “um, er…”.
o Practise maintaining eye-contact with a group of people.

Expect the unexpected
o How will you deal with audience questions? What if you can’t answer the question?
o How will you respond to criticism?
o What if the audience misunderstands what you say?

Know your equipment
o Familiarise yourself with the equipment you will use.
o Time your presentation using the equipment (it may take longer than just reading aloud).
o Nervousness is normal - combat it by knowing your content and practising it! Convert what nervousness remains into enthusiasm and focus.
o Breathe. Pause between points. Emphasise key ideas/information.
o Establish contact with the audience - talk with them before your presentation.
o Walk purposefully and confidently to the front of the lecture room (fake it!).
o Remember, the purpose of oral presentations is to communicate a topic as interestingly and succinctly as possible, so be expressive and concise.

Monday, April 20, 2009

BE YOURSELF


BE AT YOUR OWNSELF

DON'T EVER TRY TO BE SMART!!
(COPING SOMBODY ELSE) BE AT YOUR OWN SELF.
DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR OWN IDENTITY ,THAT IS YOUR CROWN
YOU HAVE YOUR OWN UNIQUENESS THAT WILL ADD BEAUTY TO YOUR INDIVIDUALITY .

Saturday, April 18, 2009

BE OPTIMISTIC


Optimism, Hope and Motivation

1. When Thomas Edison invented the light bulb, he tried over 2000 experiments before he got it to work.
A young reporter asked him how it feltto fail so many times. He said, “I never failed once. I invented the light bulb. It just happened to be a 2000-step process.”

2. Wilma Rudolph was the 20th of 22 children. She was born prematurely and her survival was doubtful. When she was 4 years old, she contracted double pneumonia and scarlet fever, which left her with a paralyzed left leg. At age 9, she removed the metal leg brace she had been dependent on and began to walk without it. By 13 she had developed a rhythmic walk, which doctors said was a miracle. That same year she decided to become a runner. Sheentered a race and came in last. For the next few years every race sheentered, she came in last. Everyone told her to quit, but she kept on running. One day she actually won race. And then another. From then on she won every race she entered. Eventually this little girl, who was told she would never walk again, went on to win three Olympic gold medals.

3. In 1962, four nervous young musicians played their first record audition for the executives of the Decca recording Company. The executives were not impressed. While turning down this group of musicians, one executive said,
“We don’t like their round. Groups of guitars are on the way out.”
The group was called The Beatles.

4. In 1944, Emmeline Snively, director of the Blue Book Modeling Agency,told modeling hopeful Norma Jean Baker,
“You’d better learn secretarial workor else get married.”
She went on and became Marilyn Monroe.

5. In 1954, Jimmy Denny, manager of the Grand Ole Opry, fired a singer after one performance. He told him, “You ain’t goin’ no where….son. You ought to go back to drivin’ a truck.” He went on to become the most popular singer in America named Elvis Presley.

6. When Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone in 1876, it did not ring off the hook with calls from potential backers. After making a demonstration call, President Ruther ford Hayes said,
“That’s an amazingInvention, but who would ever want to use one of them?” .

7. In the 1940s, another young inventor named Chester Carlson took his idea to 20 corporations, including some of the biggest in the country. They all turned him down. In 1947 - after seven long years of rejections! He finally got a tiny company in Rochester, New York, the Haloid Company, to purchase the rights to his invention an electrostatic paper-copying process. Haloid became Xerox Corporation we know today.

The Moral of the above Stories:
Character can not be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved. You gain strength, experience and confidence by every experience where you really stop to look fear in the face…. You must do the thing you can not do. And remember, the finest steel gets sent through the hottest furnace.And even the GOLD is tested against fire.
A winner is not one who never fails, but one who NEVER QUITS

Thursday, April 16, 2009

I AM GREAT

HOW TO SEE OUR OWN SELF?
WE NEED TO FEEL ALWAYS GREAT ABOUT OUR OWN-SELF;
EVEN WHEN WE ENCOUNTER FAILURES.
NOT ONLY THAT, WE NEED TO IDENTIFY THE GREATNESS IN OTHERS
AND NEVER HESITATE/FORGET TO APPRECIATE THE GREATNESS IN OTHERS .
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"APPRECIATING THE SELF BY THE SELF WILL
REALY BOOST ONE'S ENERGY LEVEL".
TIPS TO FALLOW
WRITE DOWN IN A PAPER/CHART
"I AM GREAT AND I WILL SEE
THE GREATNESS IN OTHERS"
HANG IT OR PASTE IT IN YOUR BED ROOM WALL .READ IT EVERY NOW AND THAN AS YOU PLEASE..
ESPECIALLY , BEFORE SLEEPING IN THE NIGHT AND AFTER GETTING UP IN THE MORNING.
THE MIRACLE WILL HAPPEN UNTO YOU..
JUST DO IT AND SHARE YOUR EXPERIENCE WITH ME AFTER 21 DAYS OF REGULAR PRACTICE,

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

GRATITUDE


"He Who Wants a Rose Must Respect The Thorn.
The Best Way To Cheer Yourself Up

Is To Try Cheer Somebody Else Up.
Gratitude is the Fairest Blossom
Which Springs from the Soul"

MANAGING YOUR TIME -TIPS

TIME MANAGEMENT


Never underestimate the power of simple, tried and tested techniques. I’ve seen many people transform their lives and turn their chaotic to do lists into peaceful vehicles for success just by using a couple of these 7 proven and simple time management activities that I’m going to share with you.

1. Write everything down
They say your head is the worst place to store something and I have to agree. Trying to store important information in your head doesn’t make any sense. Instead, write down important information so you can free up your head to focus entirely on the task at hand.

2. Prioritize Your To Do Lists
Just simply making a to do list doesn’t work anymore. This is because with the technology advances, new information, data and tasks are coming at you faster than before and the old numbered to do lists just can’t handle the amount or the speed at which new priorities and tasks enter your life. Instead, try a prioritized to do list.

3. Look for the most important, the most fulfilling and the most profitable tasks
The 80/20 rule is an important concept not only when it comes to manufacturing and sales but also when it comes to your time management and the amount of satisfaction you get from your activities. Which is why it is so important to understand and apply the 80/20 rule when it comes to getting more out of your life and becoming highly productive.

Always seek out the tasks that bring you the highest return, the greatest amount of satisfaction, the most results (based on whatever goals you’re working on) and focus your full attention on them.

4. Keep a journal
While the correlation may not be self evident at first, keeping a journal is a great way to save tons of time. Simply note all the important things that you come across, make a list of things to do the next time you go on a vacation, make a list of things to do the next time you make a presentation etc and you can leverage the work you do once to find these resources over and over every time you need them.

5. Keep a time log
A time log is very simple and yet a highly effective time management tool. Simply log in how you spend your day and you’ll see some interesting trends in your energy and productivity patterns. The time log will also help you remain accountable and see exactly where your time is going.

6. Review Your Goals and Efforts
Review your goals every morning, this will give you the inspiration to break through procrastination and get working. Also review the efforts you make everyday – i.e. the amount of time you spend productively working towards your goals. This will help you see exactly where you are so you can find out how to get “there” from “here”.

7. Tackle Distractions
One of the biggest hurdles to high productivity and effectiveness is distractions. Try to eliminate them before you set out to work on an important project. Turn off your phone, turn off the internet and guard your time – try to make sure that nothing will distract you from your most important tasks while you’re working on it.

Sunday, April 12, 2009

HABIT OF SAVING

Maintaining a Habit of Saving


Saving money does not have to be an overwhelming task, nor do you need a bigger pay check before you can begin as expense will always rise to the level of income. The key to saving is to begin by making small efforts to produce large benefits.


>Start a habit of doing it by managing, controlling and tracking every single Rupee.

Here are three simple methods to begin saving money painlessly but deliver results.

1. Collect loose change - At the end of each day, consolidate all your loose change and put it in a jar or piggy bank. Bank in every single pennies, nickels, dimes and quarters that you have saved into your savings account every month.
2. Reduce your expenses - An important way to save money is to reduce expenses. If you cannot demand an increment from your boss, cut your expenditures. Once the money is freed from expenses, it can easily be re-purposed to savings.
3. Pay yourself first - A part of all you earn is yours to keep. Set aside ten percent of your salary and commit it to savings whenever you receive your paycheck.Every single rupee you spend now is Rs.10 you could have had if you invest it properly.
I strongly recommend that you delay gratification, save and invest now, and reap the rewards later.

Earn -> Save -> Spend

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

HOW YOU MAKE/LEAVE OTHERS FEEL.


MANY TIMES WORD HAS NO MEANINGS OR
IT IS FORGOTTEN WITHIN A SHORT WHILE...
Who ever you may meet in your life as a friend,school mate,room mate or journey mate...Including your Relationship with the Vendor on the road...
"No matter whom you may meet on your way.."
"Just Leave Them in a better state Than before YOU MET THEM"
and Make them Feel it Right
Keep it up this as one of yours hobby or moto in Life.
This is My desire Unto YOU All.

Sunday, April 5, 2009

FOR YOU TO KNOW


Name Origin Of These Companies
Adobe
came from name of the river Adobe Creek that ran behind the house of founder John Warnock.

Apache
It got its name because its founders got started by applying patches to code written for NCSA’s httpd daemon. The result was ‘A PAtCHy’ server — thus, the name Apache .

Apple Computers
The favorite fruit of founder Steve Jobs.
He was three months late in filing a name for the business, and he threatened to call his company Apple Computers if the other colleagues didn’t suggest a better name by 5 o’clock.

CISCO
its not an acronym but the short for San Francisco.

Google
The name started as a jokey boast about the amount of information the search-engine would be able to search. It was originally named ‘Googol’, a word for the number represented by 1 followed by 100 zeros. After founders, Stanford grad students Sergey Brin and Larry Page presented their project to an angel investor, they received a cheque made out to ‘Google’ .
Hotmail
Founder Jack Smith got the idea of accessing e-mail via the web from a computer anywhere in the world. When Sabeer Bhatia came up with the business plan for the mail service, he tried all kinds of names ending in ‘mail’ and finally settled for hotmail as it included the letters “html” - the programming language used to write web pages.

It was initially referred to as HoTMaiL with selective upper casing.
HP
Bill Hewlett and Dave Packard tossed a coin to decide whether the company they founded would be called Hewlett-Packard or Packard-Hewlett.

Intel
Bob Noyce and Gordon Moore wanted to name their new company ‘Moore Noyce’ but that was already trade marked by a hotel chain, so they had to settle for an acronym of INTegrated ELectronics.

Lotus (Notes)
Mitch Kapor got the name for his company from ‘ The LotusPosition’ or ‘Padmasana’. Kapor used to be a teacher of Transcendental Meditation
(TM-by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi).

Microsoft
Coined by Bill Gates to represent the company that was devoted to MICRO Computer SOFTware. Originally christened Micro-Soft, the ‘-’ was removed later on.

Motorola
Founder Paul Galvin came up with this name when his company started manufacturing radios for cars. The popular radio company at the time was called Victrola.
ORACLE
Larry Ellison and Bob Oats were working on a consulting project for the CIA (Central Intelligence Agency). The code name for the project was called Oracle
(acronym for: One Real ******* Called Larry Ellison)

Red Hat
Company founder Marc Ewing was given the Cornell lacrosse team cap. (with red and white stripes) while at college by his grand father. He lost it and had to search for it desperately. The manual of the beta version of Red Hat Linux had an appeal to readers to return his Red Hat if found by anyone !

SAP
“Systems, Applications, Products in Data Processing”, formed by 4 ex-IBM employees who used to work in the ‘Systems/Applications/Projects”.

SUN
founded by 4 Stanford University buddies, SUN is the acronym for Stanford University Network.
Xerox
The inventor, Chestor Carlson, named his product trying to say ‘dry’ (asit was dry copying, markedly different from the then prevailing wet copying).
The Greek root ‘xer’ means dry.

Yahoo!
The word was invented by Jonathan Swift and used in his book ‘Gulliver’s Travels’.
It represents a person who is repulsive in appearance and action and is barely human.
Yahoo! founders Jerry Yang and David Filo selected the name because they considered themselves yahoos.

Thursday, April 2, 2009

CHANAKYA QUOTES

“Before you start some work, always ask yourself
Three questions -
Why am I doing it ?,
What the results might be ? and Will I be successful ?

Only when you think deeply
and find satisfactory answers to these questions, go ahead.”
Chanakya quotes (Indian politician, strategist and writer, 350 BC-275 BC)
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How to think BIG and become RICH



Everybody want to become rich overnight, but rarest of rare become rich that way. To become rich, you need to think rich, it’s same way when you are low in confidence, you tend to think nothing will your way and you stop trying and really nothing come your way. In a nutshell you don’t try and you get nothing and next you try and try hard you will get everything sooner or latter.


But the moot question is how think BIG and become RICH. Following are 10 suggestions for you to follow.


1. Be proactive. Never wait for a thing to happen, make happen.
2. Think win-win. Always think about victory, never think about defeat.
3. When you met some problem, don’t shy away instead face it squarely, always hold bull by it’s horn.
4. Whenever you come across a position when you needs to spend more, do not try to cut expenses instead
try to raise your income.
5. Do not procrastinate. Be active physically and mentally.
6. Procrastination create fears, Action recedes fear.
7. Expect great thing out of yourself, always take pride in yourself.
8. Listening is a art, be a deft hearer.
9. Realize power of promise, never ever try to induce somebody by promising falsely.
10. Last but not least. Nothing comes for FREE, work hard and work honestly.
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